Finding time to spend with your daughter is critical. As they get older, it may be harder and harder and schedule, but truly they need your time more now than they did when they were little.
Yesterday, as all the men were away, dd and I had a morning and evening time. Of course the morning was getting up at 4am for the Royal Wedding. I personally found this special, because I remember getting up at 4 am for Diana and Fergie's weddings. Unfortunately, when I was a child, I got up alone. To get up with my daughter and share this special memory was wonderful (I think I did nod off a bit - we were up until midnight the night before).
Last night, we had to do some errands and so we shared a dinner together and then came back for one of our favorite mother daughter times. We did a foot soak with a hand and foot massage while we watched a movie.
The foot soak recipe is so easy. I'm not even sure where we picked it up, but it is simply: hot water, powdered milk, and a few drops of extract (we use almond). We put the mixture in a large aluminum foil tray (one for each) on towels and make sure that everything is within a hand's reach so that we don't have to be disturbed. And then after soaking a while, we use salt and oil as a scrub. We follow that with a hand and foot rub with handcreams from Bath and Body Works; specifically, my daughter loves Moonlight Path.
Not only did we have some wonderful food (Farmer's Market deep dish pizza at Uno's), great conversation, but the pampering reminded me of when dd what a baby and I would give her a baby massage. There is something about touch that creates intimacy and reminds us that we are all human.
If you think your baby is all grown up and doesn't need you anymore, you are wrong. Take time today to schedule a date with your daughter, whether she is 16, 36, or 56. You will both benefit from the time.