Sunday, January 3, 2010

Becoming a Foster Parent

I know it has been almost a week - maybe even a week, but I think you will forgive me as this week we have added an extra child. We picked up our newest addition last Monday and I've barely sat down once. You would think one extra child would not make that much of a difference but it has. First of all when a new placement comes to your house there are responsibilities that you have regarding doctors appointments and such. In this case, each one seems to lead to another one. Plus, I believe that I have explained that we are not just doing traditional foster parenting but intensive foster care, where the children have additional issues. Some have been abused or neglected, some have additional medical needs, some have diagnosis like RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) or ADHD. I think the transition has gone as well as can be expected both for DS2, but also for our biological children. We have tried to have fun while also getting through the appointments necessary. Tomorrow, we have to battle with the schools. Due to this move, we live outside of the district that he is currently being schooled in, but since he has had so many traumatic transitions and he is currently successful in school, I am hoping to maintain this school. Please wish me luck. I am hoping with the promise of transportation the school will allow him this small bit of consistency. So needless to say, while things may be a little crazy for a bit, I think you will find that my posts have a whole new component to them. We are no longer a family of four but of five: a mom, a dad, two homeschooled-biological child, and one public schooled foster child. Plus, we can't leave out the dog and the cat.

Here is a prime example of our new mixed up life, DH and I will be celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary tomorrow, but between getting DS2 set up back at school, a therapist visit, basketball practice, and a book club, I don't think we are going to have a whole lot of celebrating time. So tonight, DH took me to the restaurant that we had our rehearsal dinner in 18 years ago today.

Of course who is taking the picture but the kids, who are happily eating their meal on the other side of the isle trying to be inconspicuous.


Brenda said...

Could I add a link to your blog on mine?

Dawn said...

Sure can, Brenda. Nice to meet you. I look forward to getting to meet you and hear about your journey.

Andy's Bethy said...

Congratulations on 18 years. Time flies, doesn't it?
I sent off for my introduction package for foster/adopt today. I'll keep you posted as we try to figure out what comes next.